Week of Weeks

June 30th, 2009

I wrote and intended to post this on Sunday, but obviously didn’t get to it. I finally found time. And an Internet connection.

We knew at the offset of the week that it was going to be busy. Whether or not it was going to get stressful was another matter, but Katie was already feeling a little bit unclean for having an unclean house. All of our stuff was getting into different piles, but the yard sale pile had been there for a week and had a week yet to go before we would do another one.

I had the goal to get my car sold this past week. How, I wasn’t sure, but we really needed to get it done. No one had called about it despite it being parked by the road for two weeks, and we only had one person ask about it on Craigslist. I figured I had it priced a little high, but people usually make an offer. Well, we got a phone call from some friends who had a coworker who was looking for it. Well, they called and came by on Monday to look at it along with the daughter that it was going to go to. Well, they test drove it, asked questions, thought about it, then went off to lunch. Not long after they called and made an offer, giving some good reasons for the offer. It was less than we were hoping, but since the hood clear coat was flaking off, it looked bad. Plus they had done their homework and similar cars on Craigslist in the area were selling for less, minus the flakes. So, oh well, we got a good amount out of it and were glad to have it sold and gone. Goal number one complete on Monday, of all days. I have to say when I handed the daughter the key, she wrote the check, she bounced off happily with her new car.

The next project was getting our shipment ready. We made arrangements with a company that would pick up 630 lbs / 30 medium boxes worth of stuff from our door and deliver it to the door of our destination. Did I mention they are going to take care of all the paperwork, customs, etc? Yeah, well worth the money we’re paying. Well, we hit a snag along the way. The company that was supposed to pick up our stuff never called, and should have by Monday. I contacted my contact guy and asked what was up. He called the next day and said that the local company had trouble with some equipment, but they never told anyone. Well, he said that they’d take over 25% off our total price if we took our stuff to one of their larger facilities. The catch….the closest one to us is in Portland, a 7-hour drive. Well, we urged him to maybe find another local company and that we were willing to wait a week. He called back several times that day and made arrangements for the pickup on Thursday. On Wednesday night we were up until midnight packing up my computers and everything else we needed. We even packed my computer desk as we were well under weight and size. We documented and indexed everything, weights and conversions, destination written and an extra print-out from the mother company to attach to each box. Thursday came and the fellow back in with his semi truck and we loaded it in no time. Shipment gone and on it’s way. The guy who picked it up said he’d put it all on a pallet and shrink-wrap it. Perfect. Goal number two done.

The third and last goal was the yard sale on Saturday. I got the morning off and we woke up around six and spent the next two hours just bringing stuff outside onto the tables or onto the ground. So….so much…..junk. We had just about everything out there. I went to put up some signs and came back ready for customers. We had a steady stream from about 9:00 until 2:00 then things slowed down for a few hours, but we were still able to move quite a bit of stuff even later on. By noon we had moved a lot of stuff and were thrilled with the turn out so far, but people kept coming and taking things. We kept adding to our free pile and a lady came and took a ton of stuff from it, thanking us all along because she was going to give it to her daughter who was making a new start in her life. Someone bought our chest freezer, computer desk, jogging stroller, my computer chair, printer, baby swing, high chair, shoe holders, weight set, and the list goes on and on and on. I went to work for a time and came back with one of our farm pickups to put the remaining treasures into and unloaded it in the DI trailer parked at our stake center. Goal number three complete and we made a few hundred more dollars.

We then went to the Ontario Obon Festival that night at the local Buddhist Temple. Yes, we have a Buddhist Temple in Ontario. We had udon noodles and the flavor was just great.

Oh yes, we had to give talks today in church. We knew about that since Monday, and Katie had hers prepared soon thereafter. Those are done now, too, and we had enough compliments on them that we feel good about it.

One more week here. We visited a family that we’ve gotten to know here and we’re going to miss them. We had dinner with my parents and we’ll definitely miss them. We plan on making the best of this coming week while we’re here. At the same time we’re delighted to be going and are excited for this time in our lives.

Mothers, Brothers, and Fathers

June 21st, 2009

It’s Father’s Day and I’ll make mention of that later. This past week we took a trip to the Redwoods in California and camped out for 4 nights. I want to talk about that first. I attached the full journal I kept of our trip here if you want to read it.

We left very early Tuesday morning. There were 3 cars/families in our caravan plus my mother. Somehow, someway, our trip took us across the better part of central and southern Oregon where the speed limit is 55 mph, so the going was…..slow. Oregon is just like that. We only hit freeway for about 10 minutes of our nearly 13-hour journey. Two of the cars in our caravan started an hour before we did and met up with us here, along the way, so they had even more travel going for them.

Well, we went through Burns, ate breakfast in Bend (Bend was one of the stops on our honeymoon, so it was fun to see some of the places we visited), and we made it to Crater Lake (another honeymoon memory) in good time. It was awesome except for the mosquitoes. We continued through the dense Oregon forests until we hit Grants Pass and stopped for more food and supplies. Our last 100 miles took over 2 hours because of the slow, windy nature of the roads, but we crossed into California and found the Jedidiah Camp Site just off the highway.

After everything was said and done, and as we were in the car for the last 100 yards…Elsa threw up everything. Poor girl gets motion sickness as bad as I do. Oh well, we soon had camp set up, Elsa cleaned and fed, ate some dinner, met up with another family, my sister, coming in from Washington state, and got settled for a good nights sleep.

Each day we woke up and a family cooked breakfast while grandma cooked us lunch. We had so much food it wasn’t funny. A family also cooked dinner each night and we had the means of cooking some tasty dinners. We spent time in different groves of redwood trees (Stout, Simpson-Reed, Peterson) and really stood in awe at the beauty of the magnificent trees. We also spent time on the beach near Crescent City, saw Paul Bunyan and Babe, his blue ox, and drove through a redwood. I got to do the only two things I wanted to: read books and run through a path in the redwoods. The scenery was magnificent. The food splendid. The week…..amazing. See pictures below. I’ll try and add a gallery later.

Mothers

Now to why I named the post what I did. First, mothers. There were 4 families there, and 3 of those 4 had one child under 12 months. Everyone had a child under 2. One family had 3 kids and one family had a pregnant mother (Katie). Keeping the kids happy on a camp out, with limited facilities, far from home, was a task but the mothers made it look easy. It was interesting to see what the different parenting tactics were. I thought to myself: If I had a kid like that, how would I deal with it? which made for a big learning experience. It’s easier to just stay home and not risk anything by taking the kids anywhere, let alone a state (or two) away. But the mothers trooped on, made the dinners, kept the tents clean, and did all the activities the kids wanted to do while keeping them in line, but letting them explore the world around them. Three cheers. We also couldn’t have done it as seamlessly without grandma (my mother) there. She tended to each of the 5 grandkids there, could always be found doing dishes or cleaning something. She even helped clean Elsa’s car sick disaster. She didn’t hesitate or ask, she just did it. Katie wondered if she didn’t have a good time because she was always working, it seemed, but that’s what grandmas love to do and that’s why we love our grandmas.

Brothers

The next one goes to my brother, Conrad, for planning the whole trip. I had always wanted to see the redwoods, but never knew when it was going to happen….then he announced that he was planning a trip and that my sister, Carrie, and her family would be going. I couldn’t pass it up despite our busy lives trying to get ready to move and being June on the farm. Katie didn’t seem excited about it, but after we got there and saw how beautiful it was, just walking through Stout Grove made it worth it, and the bathrooms weren’t far away from our site. Katie did well. Back to Conrad. Not only did he plan the whole thing, he came up with stuff we could all do together, but left things flexible. He lead the way most of the way there and made sure everyone was taken care of. He planned when each family would do the meals and things worked out wonderfully. On top of it all, we had perfect weather. Not too cold at night and not too hot during the day. The sun came out at the right times to add to the scenery. We couldn’t ask for more and recommend anyone going on a camp out to take Conrad and family along.

Fathers

Now for fathers. There were several on the camp out and it seemed like all of us fathers were all so very different in our own way. I mentioned several times that we wished that grandpa (my father) could have been there. He would have automatically been the last say in everything just because he looks like he knows something and has wisdom. I love my father. I’m sad to leave here because one of the things I looked forward to the most was working with him on the farm. Sometimes I take a step back and look at what we’re getting ourselves into and wonder what the heck we are doing, but then when something is right, it’s right and if there’s anyone who knows how to get his hands dirty doing the things that no one else will do, but need to be done, because it’s right…. he’ll do it. He’ll lead when it’s needed, but knows how to follow. The hard thing about being a father is that the very things you teach your kids- hard work, determination, honesty, integrity, and everything else, leads them to become leaders themselves and want to do their own thing and fly in their own way, but fathers understand that.I’m grateful for a father who understands. One day perhaps I’ll understand how hard it can be.

I myself am a father. I have one precious little girl and another one soon to arrive. I love my little girl with my whole soul. She is sweet and pure. I love watching her play, explore, and learn. She is fearless, yet knows her bounds. I love seeing the love she has for her mother. Not only do I love being a father, I love being her father. I couldn’t ask for anything more. Katie told me one morning she woke up crying, not a common thing, and between cries, she asked “daddy go huh?” Back when she crawled, and even now, when Katie would tell her that I was home from work, she could be seen and heard crawling (now walking) to the door where I always come in, as happy as can be to see me. Having her as a motivation keeps me going day after day, hour after long hour. She’s asleep right now. We came home a little early from church because she caught a cold on the last night of our camp out and threw up again, about 45 minutes before we got home last night. Despite being sick, she makes the best of it. She always makes the best of things, one thing among many that I continue to learn as I learn how to be a father.

Crater Lake (one of my favorite places):

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My Beautiful Bride and a Redwood:

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Paul Bunyan:

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Conrad and Athena on the Beach:

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Family picture in Simpson-Reed Grove:

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Our humble tent:

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A Redwood Scene:

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Months to Weeks

June 14th, 2009

Ironically, my last post was my 100th post. I didn’t realize it really until I had already decided to write a post on our whereabouts and plans for my Japanese audience. Maybe we’ll do a celebration later.

Being a fortnight into June, nearly halfway through the month, our attitude of “we have time” has turned into more of a crunch. But, because Katie has been on top of things, we’re doing quite well. We’ve been getting rid of stuff via Craigslist since last fall and continue on that endeavor. We had a successful yard sale yesterday where we cleared out about 1/3 of our total for sale stuff and made several hundred dollars. We had a steady stream of people from about 10:00 to 3:00 which was just before the wind started. We’re all but ready to have our shipment picked up and sent over to Gimsbach. I take several loads out to my parents’ house to store weekly. It’s looking more and more bare in here and we’re pleased with the progress we are making.

We do have more things for sale, if anyone is interested. We mostly want to sell a car. It’s a Saturn SL2, ‘98, and has under 120,000 miles on it. I just changed the oil, replaced the engine coolant, and had it detailed inside and out. The clear coat has been flaking off the hood, but other than that the car looks great inside and out. The tires have 80k miles left on them and Saturns like this have been known to run for over 300,000 miles. Kelly Blue Book puts this car at about $2,300, but we’re asking for no more than $2,000. If anyone is interested, let me know please! It’s on craigslist and sits next to the road with for sale signs in it. We also have a day bed, a chest freezer, a ZETA educator bass guitar, and an HP ipaq pockeet pc, among other things. We’ll be having another yard sale in two weeks with even more stuff to get rid of.

What about Elsa? Yes, she’s still here. She’s dutifully keeping herself busy throughout the day and allows us to get these things done. She’s a sweetheart even though I’m gone from 6am-12pm and again from 4:30pm-7:30pm. And when I’m home I put 2 hours into the MTC remotely and work on other things we have to do before we leave. Her vocabulary is huge. Here are the words she knows off the top of my head (though they are pronounced like you would expect a little girl to pronounce them):
mommy
daddy
socky
cow
ducky
horsie
kitty
doggie
toes
shoes
car
happy
ok
baby
go (usually  preceded by mommy or daddy)
blankey
juice
milk
cracker
cookie
potato
poopy
bath
tub
bubbles
night-night
up
bye bye
hi
hello
rock
cheese
light
eye
ear
hair
no
prayer
Jesus

These among others. She does well socially as well, despite being under 18 months old. We’ve been taking her to nursery for several weeks (thanks to grandpa) and with 9 other girls in there, she got used to it in a hurry. I dropped her off for the first time last week and checked on her a few times. The nursery leader said that she was doing just fine. When I went to get her after church, the nursery leader said “does she ever cry?” and “I want a baby like her.” She’s a sweet, sweet baby. She had a blast at the yard sale. We let her just walk around and get into things, though she only broke one thing. Our neighbor has a number of chickens and Elsa loves to go see them. She loves going outside. She loves fruit and veggies. And she LOVES her new quilt that grandma made her.

Here she is. She never did get any off out of the can. Notice her seat. She put it there and had to sit on it.

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変わった計画

June 7th, 2009

知っているように私たちは大学に戻る機会があります。私たちはずっと酪農で仕事するつもりでしたが、6月前に別のことをやろうと考えました。どうしたらよいのかと話し合ったり、祈ったりしていたら、大学に戻る方がいいですと感じました。みつの大学に入ろうとしましたら、三とも入るようになりました。一つしかいかないので、一番よくて、お金をたすかる大学にいったほうがいいと思った。だからドイツのSaarland Universityに行く予定です。あと一年フランスのUniversity of Nancy 2に行きます。計量言語学を勉強します。

長い話になりますが、BYUにいた時にコンピューターサイエンスを勉強しました。その間私はある研究グループに入りました。そこでわたしがパソコンはどうやって言語を分かるかの研究をしました。また二つの関係あるクラスに入りました。非常に楽しかったです。後で二つの研究会議に行きました。どうかそのような仕事をしたいと思いました。

酪農のしごとは偉いと思いますが、私には別の仕事をしたいです。特待生になったので、非常にすばらしい機会になります。本当に偉大な祝福です。

7月12日にドイツに行きます。ケイチの両親と暮らす予定です、大学の近くに住んでいるから。卒業後はどうなりますかね。できれば日本に住むがよい!

How to Train

May 31st, 2009

This isn’t a discussion on the difference between education vs training. No, nothing recent has brought this on; I’ve been thinking about this for some time. I’ve been gathering my thoughts for months and I think I may have a comprehend-able way of putting it all together.

Lats time we went to Utah, I spent a day at the MTC. I sat eating lunch in the MTC cafeteria with a handful of other people from my department. Since I work 99% of the time from home and never put in more than 20 hours a week, I wondered at how my job security was. After all, we’re in hard economic times and I wouldn’t be surprised if they had to cut some people off. To my surprise, his comment was: “No, you definitely have a job here. We don’t have to train you.”

On other occasions I’ve heard about how difficult training can be. It’s a bit deal to most supervisors and managers. Since I’ve been at the trainee end of good and bad training and, and because I’ve also done training myself (hopefully more good than bad), I have some thoughts on what has worked for me and what hasn’t, coming from both view points. I’ve been involved in training with language, farm work, church callings, and very, very technically detailed processes.

There are four steps to good training. It turns out that most of the work is done by the trainer, as it should be, and that’s why most trainers hate training. The trainer has to be mentally ready before training, and that means dropping a lot of preconceived notions:

  • I have more experience and know more about it than my trainee
  • If you want something done right, do it yourself
  • I get to pick and choose what, when, how, and why the trainee has to do something
  • I’ll just show the trainee what I do and expect him/her to pick up on what needs to be done

If you do any or all of these things, your trainee probably won’t stick with you very long. You may have the experience and you may have the know-how, but you probably didn’t hire or that person didn’t otherwise come to be trained by you because of sheer stupidity. The person probably has some experience in the field. All you’re really doing is helping that person see how the field specifically fits into the needs of your organization. As for the second one, that may be the case, but you’ll never train anyone with that attitude. If you have children, it takes more time to teach a child how to tie his shoe than it might take others. It’s easier, you may think, if you just do it yourself when they need it. In the long run, that simply doesn’t work. Three above makes it difficult for the trainee to take any reigns, gain any expereince, or learn at all. There needs to be some amount of autonomy in any job for the trainee to fly in her own way and excel. More on that later. As for number four, that notion is really what the following four steps on “how to train” deal with.

1. Help the Trainee Learn to Read Your Mind

If only my trainee could read my mind. If only she could figure out what I’m trying to say and just get with it. The gap of communication is a difficult one to bridge. You have a new person, presumably you’ve only recently met. You have the way you think. The trainee has the way he thinks. You have the way you think the trainee thinks and the trainee has the way he thinks you think. Now you’re trying to communicate with all these different things to take into account. Add on top of that an ambiguous natural language like English, where, if you’re not exactly precise, the communication breaks down all together. You also have different backgrounds and contexts from which both of you understand the things you’re trying to portray. It’s amazing we communicate, let alone train, at all.

Yet somehow we make it through and eventually what we mean when we say something is finally understood. It sometimes takes more time, but that’s not how it should be. Therefore, I give unto you the trick on how to read minds: write it down. Before training ever happens, you should have what you do well documented for several reasons. First, if forces the communication on your part to be clear and precise in stead of stumbling for words the day you decide to train that trainee on something. It also forces you to put together a plan of action for training in stead of just starting with whatever, moving to whatever, and ending on…whatever. When things are carefully put into a certain order and build on each other, much more information is retained by the trainee. Those are two big reasons even if the trainee never sees what you wrote down. Don’t think for a second that you’re job can’t be documented. It can. Don’t make the stupid (and I meant to write stupid) mistake of thinking that you have it all in your head and you don’t need to write it down. That’s just exactly the problem. It’s in your head and no one can read your mind, that is, unless you write it down. Not only does it help you, but it helps the trainee. You can have the trainee read what you wrote and learn all about it before she even starts doing anything else. It also gives her a place to go to for questions, making your job as trainer much, much easier. But at the same time, it allows the trainee to ask better questions. With all of the information they need to do the job before them, they can imagine what needs to be done and ask important questions before they even start- but not silly questions because they’ve read all about it. Finally, writing it down helps the trainee understand that part of “the way he thinks you think” and bridges that difficult gap. This alone makes the last three steps in training that much easier. The best thing is, if you need to train mulitple people on the same job, you only really need to write it down once.

Recap: write it all down. Before the trainee even starts, have him read it.

2. Show the Trainee How it is Done

Now you can walk through the actual task that you’re training on. If you’re training someone how to drive a car, by now you’ve had them read up on it. They know where the pedals are, what they do, how the car fundamentally works, and the laws of the road. Now they may have seen people drive many, many times, but now, with the documentation in that trainee’s mind, you can show them what the documentation meant in action. Now they are really paying attention to how it all works. This is where you get to be a cool trainer, showing the right way to do it, always referring back to what the trainee read. Throw in some quizzes to make sure the trainee understands what’s going on. As trainer, you can get a feel for how well the trainee is ready or not. Don’t blame them if they’re not, though. Most of the time it’s the fault of the trainer.

Recap: Show

3. Let the Trainee Try

Now is probably one of the hardest parts of the training. You, with all of your experience and wisdom, have to force yourself to watch a complete noob try to do what you can do in your sleep. Sometimes it’s hard, other times it’s amusing. Whatever your take on it, this could be the most important step. With background having read about what it is the trainee is now doing, and having seen the master in action, this is the optimal time  to let the trainee fly. But, the trick here, is that you’re watching. You don’t say anything. When the trainee looks at you trying to remember what to do next, you hold your tongue and let her remember. This is the point where you get to see if what you wrote and how you displayed the job truly communicated to the trainee. Repeat this step as many times as necessary until the trainee can do it without any trouble.

Recap: Step back and let the trainee try it out

4. Walk Away

Time to let the noob fly solo. You’ve done everything you can do get the knowledge from your head into theirs, even showing the trainee, and even letting the trainee do it while you watched. The trainee should understand it by now and is done asking questions. For some, this is the hardest part. For others, this is the easiest. This is the goal of training, so it’s a step that has to be taken at some point. You have to sign off on it, too. Someone can’t step up and take over a job unless there’s a vaccuum to fill, albeit a planned vaccuum. So you walk away. This doesn’t mean you’re not around if the trainee runs into something or has questions. It may be difficult to balance the inner desire to check up and make comments on the job, but you have to let the trainee practice. A trainee cannot gain experience unless he gains experience. After all, that’s how you gained yours. Sometimes there is a lot at stake, and you will need to make some corrections, but before you do, really take a second to think if it’s really that big of a deal. Most of the time someone has commented on something I was doing, or the way I was doing it, it ended up being pretty much a waste of time. If, however, after all of this, the trianee still doesn’t do it right at all, doesn’t follow hardly any of the trianing you went through, you might want to consider someone else or perhaps a different job for that trainee. That’s up to you the trainer. The trainee may spend some time trying different things, and most of the time that’s fine. But my personal bias is: give them the benefit of the doubt and trust that they will do a good job, even if there is a lot at stake. As a trainee, there’s something about knowing that you are trusted to motivate you to do an even better job. If you know someone is always checking up on you, why bother? Trust is very powerful that way.

Recap: Let the trainee at it without you watching

Two Types of Training

In my experience, there are two types of training. First, there is training to replace. Second, there is training to merge. Training to replace is when you train someone on something and they eventually take it over. Training to merge means that you train the trainee on a number of things that you both take care of. It’s difficult to decide whether it’s best to split up jobs or just have a set number of things that need to be done and everyone just contributes until everything is done. I prefer the former for several reasons. This gets into ‘good management’ rather than good training, but the two go hand in hand. When people have their set jobs, there’s no question as to who ought to do it day by day. There’s less confusion. Even if you train to merge, you will find that set jobs naturally get divvied up. The trouble is that there are jobs that nobody really wants to do, but, seeing a need, someone ends up doing it and it becomes a kind of set job for the person who saw the need. That seems unfair because the only reason that person is doing it is because no one else will. There will always be those kinds of jobs in an organization. Then, one day, everyone decides that someone else is going to do that job and no one does it. Whose fault is it? Everyones and nobody’s fault. On the other hand, there might be a more sought-after job that everyone wants to do, but one person always takes it and doesn’t let anyone else do it. That can be just as harmful because someone might never get to do anything they wanted to do. So, you get together with everyone and find out what people like and what people don’t like. Everyone gets a little bit of each. If you want to rotate jobs, that’s fine too, so everyone knows how to do everything and can fill in, if necessary.

Other Thoughts

I know of a family that home schools their children. They have a child who is nearing teen-age years and can’t read very well. In fact, the child can hardly read at all. It’s sad, and when you ask the parents what their reasoning is as to why they never taught this child, the answer is: “We let our kids decide when they want to learn things. When they are ready, they’ll ask.” Yikes. I see the ‘logic’ here, but there’s a gaping hole in said logic. That is, when something takes effort, a lot of the time, especially with kids, there won’t be any ambition. Sometimes the parent [trainer] has to decide when the child [trainee] is ready for something, and other times the child [trainee] will become interested in something and seek it out, but sometimes even then the parent [trainee] has to know when to say no. For example, a 5-year old probably might have ambitions to drive a car. Well, yeah.

Final Story

I found that following these steps makes training much more effective. I’ve been able to help people understand very, very technically detailed processes with only a small amount of intereference on my part. A lot of the time, when the trainee has a question and I know it’s in the documentation somewhere, I remind them to look there first. Eventually they learn to always look there before asking me. One time when I was training a replacement, I had a spreadsheet of particular jobs that I did and what category they fit under. I had check boxes for each of these steps, but I also had one final box that I checked when I asked the trainee if he was ready to take over the job completely (trianing to replace). Of course, I was still there for questions and back up until I left, but I didn’t ask the trainee if I didn’t think he was ready, and it gave him an opportunity to feel if he was ready for the job. It was a great sight to see my trainee doing the job I trained him to do as he checked documentation and worked through each job by himself. There were even  jobs that I just went from step 1 to step 4 and had things work best for everyone. I really did trust him with the jobs and was pleased with the work. Training was quick and effective and we both learned from the experience, and learning was what it was all about.